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Post by aerostarr »-♥-> on Jul 3, 2007 21:56:15 GMT -5
so yes, i asked you all to read this because i'm having some insecurities at the moment. i'm 13 now, and i've never gone out with a guy in my life. ever. never had a boyfriend, either. never been asked out either. and i know it's not that i'm ugly, because everyone tells me i'm gorgeous  -and guys have hit on me before. they just don't seem to want to 'commit' if you will. is there something wrong with me? or are my suspicions that 'guys at my school just don't go out with nice girls' true? i sincerely need some help. feel free to share your experience with guys with me. life sux ♥ - aerostarr |
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Post by silverdreams on Jul 3, 2007 22:46:11 GMT -5
i think its just that the right guy hasnt come along....dont worry you ahve plenty of time and when the right guy comes along you will know it. there is absolutley nothing wrong with you and dont ever give up that good girl status because in the long run thats what a guy wants  |
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Post by .:x:.A.rtemis.:x:. on Jul 3, 2007 23:27:54 GMT -5
Yea, I totally agree with Silver, I mean, right now, your young, and, hopefully, so are the guys you want to date... Since boys naturally mature later than girls, their not really ready to commit. I think the worst thing you can do at this point is to rush through life. I know that sounds soooooo cliche, but just slow down and enjoy being young. I mean, I'm only 16, but I grew up too fast, and now I really regret it. I wasted so much time on guys that said they loved me and I didn't spend enough time being me. Last year I quit boys, and really, people in general. I decided that I will not date again until I finish veterinarian school. Always be the good girl. Never ever ever believe words that are whispered from a boy's lips. I know how it feels to want to run through life and have all your dreams at once, but, in reality, the more you rush, the less your dreams will come true. I thought I had found my dreams at the age of 14 in the soft brown eyes of a 17 year-old with a truck. All I found were nightmares. I live every day with regrets that haven't gone away in the two years since I stopped dating, and though I'm still "pure", I will forever be scarred by my own idiocy.
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Post by aerostarr »-♥-> on Jul 3, 2007 23:37:31 GMT -5
It's sad because all the guys I think are coming close to liking me move away. *sighs* But thanks for that guys, you make me feel better about it. My mom's way overprotective about it anyway, because she got married (and then divorced) at 16. But who could blame her? I'm incredibly shy, lol. I once talked to this one dude at a wedding, and we flirted for awhile and I still felt the same nervousness an hour later when he wasn't even in the same room anymore. Lol. I'm a bit crazy anyway.  But yeah, all the girls that get asked out at my school are either: a.) geeks being asked out by geeks or b.) popular girls trying to act 16 being asked out by totally evil boys who end up breaking their hearts. One of my friends didn't come to school for almost a week, there was this guy that did something so bad to her. (I'm not going to mention what it was.) But anyway, thanks for giving me the support, I need it! |
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Post by .:x:.A.rtemis.:x:. on Jul 4, 2007 0:03:44 GMT -5
Np, just stay strong, and remember:
NOTHING is worth a broken heart.
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Post by silverdreams on Jul 4, 2007 0:26:34 GMT -5
it may seem like it is so important to have a boyfriend now....but really you should focus on yourself as Artemis said and get to knwo a guy and be his friend before you move on to anythings more
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Post by pksgirl on Jul 4, 2007 8:18:19 GMT -5
Its okay ive only ever had two(in my second relationship now).MY first boyfriend well..gawd i wish i hadnt dated him andyways my bf now is super sweet and im glad were going out.It just takes awhile,youll findthe right one.A hint,instead of looking for a boyfriend let them find you.
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Post by aerostarr »-♥-> on Jul 4, 2007 11:29:22 GMT -5
That's what I've been trying to do. I've never asked a guy out either, and (unlike my friends) I actually have to get to know somebody before liking them. I have a friend that thought a guy was cute, so she asked him out. She'd never actually spoken to him in her life, and she didn't even know his name. I don't want to be one of those people, but it seems like the more desperate you seem, the more you get asked out. It's stupid.
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Post by newdesire on Jul 4, 2007 12:50:57 GMT -5
Sometimes you have to make the first move. If there is a guy you realy like but he is realy shy or realy popular and your not sooo popular, then he might be embaresed. Although only ask if your sure they like you otherwise your life could be over if any of his 'guy friends' hear. Trust me it happend to me, it was soooooooo embarresing and I lived to regret it. Lol
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Post by silverdreams on Jul 4, 2007 13:40:42 GMT -5
.......it doesnt matter what other people think, if you like a guy then you like him, no matter if you popular or not.....you shouldnt worry about popularity its so stupid and immature. At my school there arent any popular kids, everyone is cool with everyone
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Post by aerostarr »-♥-> on Jul 4, 2007 14:15:16 GMT -5
There's no one I really like at this moment, since my guy moved. I tend to like people for a long time, but I never get to asking them out because, where am I gonna go? My parents still don't let me date guys so...hehe. Still, I tend to get to liking people within the first month school has started, and then I like them for the rest of the year, lol. I'm like that. People seem so shallow at my school...
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Post by silverdreams on Jul 4, 2007 14:25:02 GMT -5
there are alot of shallow people out there....you just gotta get up the nerve and ask them. And if your parents wont let you go on dates just get a few more couples to go and say your just going to hang out with a bunch of friends...worked for me me and my friends would always go on big date groups to the movies |
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Post by .:x:.A.rtemis.:x:. on Jul 4, 2007 22:37:00 GMT -5
Yea, at my school, there's no such thing as popular or unpopular, everybody hangs out with everybody...I think that if you meet a guy that is embarrassed to be seen with you, then just avoid him, because neither of you are gonna have any fun if ya'll keep lookin' over your shoulder to make sure your not seen with each other. I think, to a degree, that your parents are right about dating though, because while your young it's not like there's anything you can do with a guy other than hold his hand and kiss him...
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Post by aerostarr »-♥-> on Jul 4, 2007 23:01:56 GMT -5
i'm not saying my parents aren't right, lol. but they're trying to hold me off until i'm 16, and that might be a little much. |
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Post by silverdreams on Jul 4, 2007 23:03:48 GMT -5
lol, i went on my first official date around 13 or 14....
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-and guys have hit on me before. they just don't seem to want to 'commit' if you will. is there something wrong with me? or are my suspicions that 'guys at my school just don't go out with nice girls' true? i sincerely need some help. feel free to share your experience with guys with me.
But yeah, all the girls that get asked out at my school are either: a.) geeks being asked out by geeks or b.) popular girls trying to act 16 being asked out by totally evil boys who end up breaking their hearts. One of my friends didn't come to school for almost a week, there was this guy that did something so bad to her. (I'm not going to mention what it was.) But anyway, thanks for giving me the support, I need it!